the struggle
trying to remember how to


Let’s talk about beauty for a minute.

Your beauty or worth is not determined by anyone other than you. Yes, it’s nice to hear from someone that you are beautiful, but don’t wait for it, build yourself up. Self love is so important, its take practice, but do it! It’s hard, I know, but you’ll feel much better about yourself when you no longer rely on anyone else’s opinion of you. Don’t base your beauty on societies standards or on anyone else’s beauty. Yours is yours and theirs is theirs. You are both beautiful.

I’ve struggled throughout my life with seeing myself as beautiful, but I am. No one can take that from me. No one else’s beauty can steal from my own, as I cannot steal from theirs. I was made the way that I am for a purpose. I have faults, I have strengths, and each one is what makes me, me.

I’m sure we can all agree that beauty isn’t all about the outward shell, it’s what’s inside that makes the outside that much more appealing. With that being said, if you can’t think of anything that you like about yourself on the outside, start with the inside. That’s what I did. I made a list in my head (we all know how much I love lists) about the personality traits that I liked about myself. Once I had that down, I moved outward, calling out one feature that I liked at a time. There are still things I do not like about myself, but I’ve made progress and will continue to do so.

A conversation I had last night made me write this post. Recently, any time I have a negative thought about myself or anything, I follow it up with something positive. No rebuttals, no additions. I end the negative thought on a positive note. For example, one day I may look into the mirror and think: “my hair is such a mess”. My positive thought would be something like: “but my eyes are pretty”.  It’s been helping me to be much happier and I use this for a variety of reasons. I smile more than I used to, laugh more than I used to, and I’m getting back to the woman that’s silly, sassy, and loves living life. That is who I am, who I’ve always been, but that person that I know hasn’t been around all that much. I’m happy to say she’s making a comeback.

Anyway, this is a long post so I’ll wrap it up. The message here is to realize that you are beautiful, to embrace it, to believe it, and not to ever let anyone make you feel any different. I’ve included a selfie with the hopes that others would take selfies too, showcasing their own beauty, and share it here. If you share one (and I hope you do) please tag it with reinventingbeauty so that I can celebrate your beauty with you.

Stay rad.